Growing up and losing friends

"Why should I care about others when they don't care about me?" Often something I say to myself when I get let down. So many times I find myself running after people when they've called me for help, they upset or angry about something. Every time I'm there giving hours of my time to someone who needs a shoulder to cry on. I will text my friends and ask 'how are you?' Only to be bombarded with everything going on in their life, which is great and I want to know everything that happens, but after that the conversation will end and I have very few friends who will actually ask how I am and see what's going on in my life.

Over the past year this has made me realise, I do not need this people in my life. I only want people who can support me and will benefit me, maybe this is selfish? But after all it is my life so why can't I be the centre of it?

A few months ago I decided enough was enough and it was time to let those people go. So if you are planning on binning the crap friends here are a few reassuring words.

It doesn't make you a bad person because you don't want to hang out with someone anymore.

You weren't born to live your life wasting hours on one sided friends.

There are people out there who actually care about you, spend more time with them!

To find those one sided friends, ask them how they are and see if 1, they ask you the same, and 2, if they actually listen to your answer.

Good luck xo


  1. Beautiful post ! The people we surround ourselves with have such a big impact on our lives - I'm so glad to read that you are making positive changes xx

  2. This post speaks to me on such a deep and personal level - it's like reading an entry of my own diary. Feeling like I'm being used or the other person is getting more out of the friendship while I give so much (and get nothing in return) is definitely not new to me. Having had a few friendships like that in the past, it's getting harder and harder for me to trust new people in my life. Your encouragement actually has given me a boost of motivation - maybe I'll be brave and distance myself from those toxic friendships....